"Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being 'in love', which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away... Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two." Dr Iannis in Captain Correlli's Mandolin by Louis de Berniere.
How often have you heard the words, "we just grew apart" from couples who are splitting up? The implication of those words is that they either consciously chose to grow in different directions, or that they didn't choose the directions they were going at all; they simply drifted along, their direction controlled by events outside of their control.
Of course few people consciously choose to grow in a different direction from their spouse. But how many couples plan their lives together, deciding on the direction they will both grow? If you want the kind of love that lasts, choose to have "roots that grow towards each other." Decide today to plan your lives together. You don't have to drift through life wondering where it will take you; hoping that you will go in the same direction. You have a choice.
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